Reflections, written by Priyansi

Clinical insights and gentle observations on patterns, relationships, grief and anxiety. New writing every month.

Featured reflection · May 2026 · 4 min read

Understanding yourself: the person behind the patterns

Who taught me that this is what I deserve? Looking beneath autopilot survival strategies and people-pleasing.

A man once sat across from me and said, “I don’t understand why I always end up here: burnt out, unappreciated, giving everything to people who give me very little back.” He wasn’t asking me to fix his relationships or his job. Without realising it, he was asking a much older question.

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June 2026 · 5 min read

Relationships & attachment: why we love the way we love

A client once told me, “The more someone pulls away, the harder I try. And the moment someone gets too close, I want to run.” She was describing attachment, the invisible blueprint each of us carries into every relationship.

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July 2026 · 4 min read

The person behind the patterns: finding compassion for your survival strategies

We don’t repeat patterns because we enjoy pain. We repeat them because they’re familiar, and familiar feels safe, even when it hurts.

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August 2026 · 5 min read

Understanding grief: what it takes from us, and what it teaches us

A woman once came to me in her thirties, struggling to trust her partner even though he’d given her no reason not to. Years earlier, she’d lost her mother suddenly, and never really grieved.

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September 2026 · 4 min read

The day I named my anxiety “Pia”

A while ago, I did something that felt strange at first: I gave my anxiety a name. It sounds small, but it changed everything.

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